ForgEt yoU.. ForGet yOu Not..

forgetting seems hard especially if there is always something there to remind you.. (kanta yun ah?! (--,))

funny and distressing.. because every time you strive to get over things.. there are various entities that will suddenly come out just to impede with your memories again.. things may be.. or places.. or people.. or even shallow reasons.. avoiding is way impossible to do.. you will only end up in denial but.. the 'aching part' is still within.. it's always easy to tell yourself that you wouldn't be affected anymore and that you've already moved on.. but convincing yourself is difficult.. you may project to everyone else that you're doing good but your own eyes can never deceive them.. for some reasons one may not understand.. 'diverting your attention' is always on top of everyone else's to-do list in terms of dealing with this situation.. but we have to admit.. no one has gone successful - fully - using this kind of strategy.. again.. you will only end up in denial..

i once read in a book that if you want to get past the hurt.. or any emotion.. you have to ‘learn to detach’.. and by detaching.. ‘you have to throw yourself first to your emotions.. you have to dive in and experience fully either the pain.. the love.. or the grief’.. after recognizing these emotions.. detachment should take its place..

seems useful.. but still complicated.. because i don’t think it will be that easy to detach yourself from something you’ve just plunged into.. one fact to consider is that you might get used to your emotions during the process.. but what if it’s pain? or grief? it is very unhealthy to get used to the feeling of hurting and grieving.. it will only make you worse.. as well as the life you were trying to make better..

forgetting.. i believe.. is a lifetime process.. however you deal with your emotions.. its depth may change in time.. but one cruel truth is.. forgetting is unattainable..